I'm very thankful for the phone messages, e-mails, and comments.
I am also grateful for the willingness of my friends to hear very bad news--with very little explanation--and still offer much support while withholding judgment.
A common (and valid) concern seems to center on whether we received help from a professional.
The short answer is "yes".
A more detailed answer would bring some clarity to a complex situation.
But that is probably the only purpose it would serve.
And right now I am more interested in making choices that avoid blame, bitterness, and finger pointing, than I am in offering clarity (especially via some public forum).
Whatever frustrations I may have with Andrea, she holds a very important place in the hearts of my two boys. And I will relentlessly work toward avoiding anything that will make this more difficult for them.
I do think I'm at a better place now to discuss this portion of my life. So if you are the kind of friend who can and should (someone who has a vested interest in my life, and an established pattern of meaningful conversations), feel free to ask me any question.
However, when asking, I hope you will still be patient with me. Right now I am:
1) wanting to be very careful about how I talk about this. I want to focus on what is best for the future, instead of what I am most angry about in the past (and that's difficult, so sometimes I just decide not to say anything at all)
2) There is much to be done. I'm running short on time these days. I hope you can understand.
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